You’ve seen all the cute holiday movies where everyone gets together and treats everyone with love and respect. Your family gatherings might not have that same Norman Rockwell feel. Your mom still harasses you about being single. Your uncle still asks you to pull his finger. And your cousin, the successful and beautiful doctor, still makes fun of your sensible shoes.
 
The holidays are not all smiles and giggles.
 
Try these strategies:
 

1. Realize that the holidays have unreasonable expectations. We’ve been conditioned to believe that the holidays should be wonderful, and everything should be just right. This is not the case for most families. The holidays are stressful for most families and all is very seldom wonderful and just right. Realize that your situation might be much more typical than you think.

 

• The issues your family has the other 11 months of the year won’t just disappear for the holidays. Relationships have inertia, they don’t change easily.
  
  

1. Have a game plan. Know which family members and situations are likely to upset you. Try to avoid those situations and people whenever possible. Think about how you will deal with any negative emotions that you experience.

 

• Call a friend.
• Go for a walk.
• Go out for coffee.
• Listen to music.

 

1. Pamper yourself afterwards. A makeover, massage, short vacation, or a nice purchase is a way of being good to yourself after a tiring holiday season with the family.
   
   
2. Play it cool. Imagine you’re a forest monk sitting on a platform in the trees. Your job is to stay as serene as possible. No matter what your family throws at you, you resolve to maintain your composure.
   
   
3. Let go of the past. If you don’t have any long-standing negative feelings toward anyone in your family, you’re in the minority. A few parents are great. A few stink. Most of us had mediocre parents. There’s nothing you can do about the past. You can either continue to be tormented by it or let it go. The choice is yours.
   
   
4. Invite a friend along. Visiting your parents in your hometown? Invite an old friend over for dinner. You have the benefit of moral support, and your family will be less likely to misbehave around company.
   
   
5. Set and achieve a couple of easy goals. You might take your car to the carwash and balance your checkbook. Getting a few constructive things accomplished will enhance your mood and keep your emotions on track.
   
   
6. Stay physically active. If the local health club has a daily membership plan, use it. Or go for a jog. Even a walk can provide an emotional break and soothe your nerves. Go out and do a few pushups under a tree in the back yard.
   
   
7. Beware of self-medicating. A single drink might not be a bad idea, but four could prove to be your undoing. Keep those old pain-killer prescriptions in the medicine cabinet. You don’t need them!
   
   
8. Take the high road. If someone is trying to get your goat, don’t let them have it. Avoid feeling the need to stick up for yourself. Just move on to another conversation partner or another topic. Once someone responds emotionally, the entire interaction is bound to take an ugly turn. Value your sanity more than your pride.

 
Hopefully, the holidays are an enjoyable time to be spent with the family. Unfortunately, holidays spent with family are often stressful. Temper your expectations. Your interactions with your family don’t improve during the holidays. Plan ahead and have a few temporary escapes planned. Rely on your friends to help you through this time.
 
Reach out to old friends and stay physically active. Accomplishing a few small goals each day can lift your mood and your resistance to negative family members.

The holidays and fattening food go hand-in-hand. Thanksgiving and the leftovers can last a week. Then it’s only a few more weeks until Christmas. New Year’s is the following week. Studies show that 75% of a person’s annual weight gain happens between Thanksgiving and the end of the year. Make this the year that you avoid holiday weight gain.
 
Most people associate the holidays with food, fun, and gaining weight. However, you can choose to enjoy the holidays and still eat responsibly.
 
Avoid gaining weight this holiday season:
 
Have a healthy meal before arriving at a party or other event that includes food. Feel free to go crazy on Thanksgiving. A single day won’t ruin your waistline. For other holiday events, fill yourself up with healthy food first. Your stomach will be full of healthy food, and you’ll be less likely to eat junk food.

1. Bring a healthy side that you love. Many gatherings encourage the bringing of a dish to share. Ensure that your offering is both healthy and delicious. You can limit your consumption of unhealthy food and enjoy the gathering at the same time.
   
   
2. Focus on things other than food. When attending a party, spend your time and attention on the other attendees. Mingle and socialize. Find a healthy snack and a bottle of water.
   
   
3. Maintain your normal diet and exercise routine. An occasional lapse won’t do any damage, but it’s surprisingly easy to gain 10 pounds or more within 6 weeks if you aren’t careful. Keep going to the gym and stick with your regular diet as much as possible. Avoid deviating from your routine.

 

• If you’re considering the possibility of beginning an exercise program for the New Year, why wait? There’s no time like the present to make your health a priority.

 

1. Add a daily walk to your routine. Get the entire family together for a daily walk. You’ll burn a few calories, keep your blood sugar under control, and reduce your appetite. Keep the pace enjoyable and you’ll look forward to your daily walk.
   
   
2. Eat slowly. The slower you eat, the less you will have eaten when your body finally decides it’s full. The easiest way to overeat is to eat quickly. Chew your food slowly and completely. Talk between bites. Drink plenty of water with your meals. This will also fill your stomach.
   
   
3. Wait at least 30 minutes before having seconds. Your first meal was enough to make you full, but your brain just hasn’t registered the information yet. Thirty minutes is plenty of time for your brain to inform you that you’re full. Have a nice chat with your friends or family before re-filling your plate.
   
   
4. Take part in a fitness or weight-loss competition. There are plenty of opportunities during the holiday season to lower your weight or increase your fitness. Even if you don’t win, you’re bound to be in a better place than if you’d never competed. Your workplace might have something to offer.
   
   
5. Start with salad. Whether you’re eating at home or attending a party, have a big salad before commencing with the rest of the meal. Remember to take it easy on the salad dressing.

 
Plan ahead this year. It’s easier to avoid gaining weight than it is to lose weight. Enjoy your friends and family during the holiday season. Excessive eating isn’t a prerequisite to having a good time. Focus on making healthy choices and moderation. Have a healthy meal before indulging yourself. You can avoid holiday weight gain by making smart decisions.