Most people are unaware of the amazing power that gratitude has and how it can transform their lives for the better. When you practice gratitude each day you will change your life very quickly and be amazed at the transformation that it makes. Keep reading as I will provide you with four examples of how gratitude can make your life a whole lot better.
Other articles on gratitude will not discuss all of these things. I want you to have the complete inside track on how gratitude can transform your life so that you will be inspired to make this significant change in your life. So please read these four examples and then get working on your attitude of gratitude right away.
Use Gratitude to Get into a Happier Mood
It is very easier to get into a bad mood if you do not have an attitude of gratitude. If someone does something to upset you, rather than getting angry at them express some gratitude towards them instead. I know from experience that this is not an easy thing to do and will require some practice but it will certainly be worth it.
You will find when you do this that your mood will change from a negative angry state to a happier state. This is especially useful in your relationship with your partner. Don’t let things that they do annoy you, put you in a bad mood and get into an argument. Instead think how grateful you are and tell them this. Also think of it this way, anger can be a message about something you've overlooked or was blind too. Be grateful that the message was revealed.
Use Gratitude to improve your Relationship
The number of break ups and divorces in the world today seems to be rising at an alarming rate. People tend to fly off the handle with their partner over the smallest of things. If you are someone that likes to criticize your partner for all of their failings then change your approach and show them gratitude instead.
It will be easy for you to find things that you are grateful for about your partner when you put your mind to it. Tell your partner why you are so grateful to have them in your life and make them feel great. Notice how their face changes and the words that they say in reply. Gratitude will certainly help you to make your relationships stronger.
You can be a Better Parent with Gratitude
If you have children then you know that sometimes it is pretty easy to become frustrated with them. They do things that you don’t want them to do and this leads to anger and disappointment. In this situation some parents will express their disappointment to their kids which just creates hurt feelings and a negative atmosphere.
When you criticize your kids they are going to feel really bad about what they have done and/or about themselves. So think about why you are truly grateful to have your children and tell them this instead. Also be grateful what can be a teaching opportunity - for you and them. This will change their mood straight away and change the way they feel about themselves. In the end everyone will feel better from the experience.
Gratitude helps you to cope with a Tragedy
If you experience a tragedy in your life such as losing a loved one, then think about the people that are left in your life and express your gratitude for this. We all have to face tragedies in life at some time or another and the most important thing is that you do not let this totally overcome you.
I also know that it is very helpful to express gratitude for having had the life experiences with the loved one who has passed. Remember the good times; and the not-so-good times. Memories last a lifetime, be grateful for them.
By expressing your gratitude for the people in your life, past and present, you will be more positive about moving forward. Use these amazing benefits to transform your life for the better through an attitude of gratitude.
2021 = END
Entering a New Direction
2020 was a doozy of a year - to say the least. It was the end of a decade and now we are officially starting a new decade. Remember to practice gratitude and grant yourself some grace.
Who do you think you are?
Do you know? Do you suspect? Are you sure you have it nailed?
After all, you've known yourself your entire life. So, if anyone knows you it should be you who knows you best. Of course, that's true if you compare how well you know yourself versus how well you know others. Guess what? You don't know. I'm sorry if that comes as a shock to you, but the reality is that you don't know who you are.
Your brain automatically sets about defining and comparing things to related items. Our habit of definition and comparison are so intertwined that one simply could not exist without the other. You can take an apple and compare it to other objects like dogs, watermelon, or even cars. You can recognize the differences between apples and the other items. When you compare apples to other apples, however, you immediately seek similarities. We do that same thing with each other. We attempt to define and compare others to ourselves. So, you automatically attempt to define who you are as compared to other people. That isn't a great handle of who you are, is it? It's simply a comparison.
Let's take a look at your next-door neighbor. Millicent has a great job and she cares about the car she drives, which is why she drives a top of the line Range Rover. She's deeply passionate about her SUV. You, on the other hand, have a decent job and while you value being able to get from point A to point B, you have never bothered about the status related to car ownership. You, instead, drive a decades-old Toyota.
So, if you were to directly compare those two points, Millicent is a well-off Range Rover driver and you aren't doing as well since you drive a Toyota. That's not accurate, though, is it? There are additional factors you didn't consider when you drew the conclusion.
That's the reality of life. When you compare yourself to someone else, you do so without the full picture. You know your side of things, but you don't know their side. So, you judge yourself based on an incomplete story. How can you say that you know who you are as a person when you a) set out to define yourself based on others, and b) you can't stop with the comparisons! Who are you for you?
This goes beyond the obvious I'm a mom, I'm a homemaker, I'm a lawyer, I'm a shopkeeper. It's deeper than that. What do you value? What do you desire? What do you want from this life? What issues and dysfunction keep you stuck and cause you pain?
· Old Definitions
I want you to think of how you define yourself as of right now. You can write out your name, sex, job description, loves, hates, likes, dislikes, hobbies, fears, bad habits, addictions, and anything and everything that you believe makes you who are you.
For each, write out I am… and complete the sentence with a new thought.
· Question Labels
For each of the responses you created from the point above, I want you to ask whether it's an accurate description of you or simply a definition/label you have accepted as truth. Be creative with your doubt as you examine old definitions and labels.
· Is It Beneficial?
Now, are any of these labels valuable to you? Do they improve your life? Do they help you learn more about yourself? Will they aid your personal growth? You'll know the answer in your gut. Learn to listen to your intuition.
· A New Definition
If you have decided any of the definitions/labels you listed are not beneficial, then it's time to come up with a new definition that will help you move forward. This is your opportunity for rebirth, to get to truly know yourself, and use that information to move forward with confidence.