Many people think frequently of how they could be a better friend to those close to them but rarely think of ways they could be better friends to themselves. It’s important to be a good friend to yourself and take care of yourself. After all, you’re stuck with yourself your whole life.
In this article, I’ll tell you five ways you can start being a better friend to yourself, because, let’s face it, you deserve it! Who better to give you the perfect friendship and support system for you. Let’s get started!
1) Treat Yourself How You Would Treat Your Best Friend
When times get tough, we’re typically hardest on ourselves. During these tough times, it’s important that you pause and think, “how would I be treating my friend if they were in this situation?”
You can’t hold yourself to impossible standards and expect to succeed or be happy. Be fair to yourself and be a good friend to yourself; you deserve it. In treating yourself like a friend, you should take a gentler and more supportive approach. You should strive to be more understanding and supportive in these tough situations.
2) Motivate Yourself As You Would Your Friends
When someone you are close to is struggling or hurting, you offer them motivation and support; so why wouldn’t you do the same for yourself? You need motivation as much as anyone else. Who better to provide that motivation and support than you?
It can be awkward and difficult to do this at first. To assist you, here are a few starter phrases for examples to help guide you in the right direction:
● Sorrow, pain, and suffering are a part of life
● This is a sorrowful or painful moment of suffering, it’s not my whole life
● Will I be compassionate enough to myself?
● Will I be the friend to myself that I need?
3) Forgive Yourself
Why would you hold yourself to impossible standards? It doesn’t help you to improve yourself and frankly, does far more harm than good. You have to forgive yourself as you would your friends.
You are not a bad person, you just did a bad thing or got yourself into a wrong situation; you deserve forgiveness as much as the next person. You have to forgive yourself in order to move forward and improve.
Meditation is like allowing yourself the time to review the situation and listen to yourself, much like you would a friend in their time of need. By sitting in quiet, mindful reflection, you can listen to yourself and review the situation.
You deserve to give yourself the time to be heard. Listen to yourself, your inner thoughts, and your body. Take care of you.
5) Take Your Own Advice
When your friends are struggling, you likely advise them to lean on their friends and loved ones who offer them support and love in their times of need. You probably also advise them to take time to figure out themselves and how they feel about the situation.
Have you considered doing that yourself?
You have to take your own advice if you want to be a better friend to yourself. Most often, the advice you give is the advice you need yourself.
Being a better friend to yourself is important to your mental health and to support yourself. In being a better friend to yourself, you can offer an unmatched level of support and friendship, since you are the most capable person to customize support for yourself.
You’ve heard people say that mindset is half the battle and it’s true. You’re only capable of what you believe you’re capable of; you’ll never succeed with the mentality of failure. That being said, how does this phenomenon affect how we view ourselves as people?
Can our view of ourselves or lack of belief in ourselves hinder us from the future and greatness we want to achieve?
In this article, I'm going to discuss how changing your mindset could help you to become a better person; after all, you’re only as great as you believe yourself to be.
Getting in the Right Mindset
When you have a mindset of failure or self-deprecation, you’re setting yourself up for failure. It can be tricky to break this pattern of thought, but not impossible.
There are a few things you can do to practice retraining your brain to have the right mindset; some may sound silly at first, but they actually work.
First off, start each day with a pep-talk in the mirror; remind yourself of your good qualities, your strengths, and what makes you great.
Another great way to practice is to cut up a piece of paper into several strips; on each strip, write something positive about yourself; place the strips in a bowl or container of some sort and pull them out at random when you start to feel the self-deprecation return.
Practice regularly reminding yourself of your accomplishments and abilities throughout your day. This will help you see your greatness and positive qualities in difficult situations, each and every day.
Believing in Yourself
Knowing your self-worth and value is only part of the battle; you also have to believe in your ability to achieve greatness and succeed. If you don’t believe in yourself, you’ll never succeed; you talk yourself out of it and choose to just not try rather than try and fail.
The best way to work on believing in yourself more is by reminding yourself of what you have achieved so far and of what you are capable.
Always remind yourself that you can do anything you put your mind to and that no challenge is too great for you to try. By changing this thought pattern, you can improve your chances of succeeding and achieving greatness. Keep in mind that this won’t be easy or quick, it will take time.
Why Should You Bother?
It can be challenging to retrain your brain to think positively, so why should you go through all that effort? Beyond just improving your chances of achieving greatness, there are a lot of benefits you can get out of your efforts to change your thought process to start believing in yourself.
When you believe in yourself, you improve your confidence and self-esteem. These qualities make you more appealing to potential employers, life partners, or friends. Believing in yourself can help take you far in life.
It can push you to achieve goals, take on challenges, and accomplish feats you never thought possible before. Believing in yourself and changing your thought process can definitely help to lead you down the path to becoming a better person.
Our mind and thought-processes are our worst enemies when it comes to our success. They can keep us from taking on new challenges, trying new things, and keep us from achieving greatness.
Believing in yourself can improve your self-esteem, confidence, and help to further your life. You can only achieve greatness when you believe you can.
So, what are you waiting for? Start boosting your self-confidence, practicing believing in yourself, and achieve greatness today.
Sometimes your life can feel incredibly chaotic and busy. You may find yourself buried under tons of responsibilities and obligations, such as a hectic work schedule, a crammed social calendar, a big list of chores to complete at home, and a variety of requests from your family.
When your life begins to feel this way, it can feel like your life is merely “happening” without much input from you. In this sense, it feels like your life is happening to you rather than you actually living and enjoying it.
If your life is feeling this way, it’s important to remember the power behind your ability to choose. Ultimately, you can make choices regarding what’s happening in your life and learning to take back that power is an essential part of finding contentment.
What happens when you relinquish your power to make your own life choices?
If you’re suffering from life “happening” to you, you know that a myriad of negative consequences occur:
When you aren’t making your own choices and calling the shots on your life, everything feels constantly chaotic. It almost feels like you can’t get a break. As soon as you get one event under control, a new issue seems to immediately arise.
A lack of control leads to extra stress and anxiety. When you aren’t making your own choices, you put yourself in a position to experience way more stress and anxiety than usual.
Making choices is an important part of expressing yourself. When you aren’t making your own choices, you may begin to lose a sense of who you really are. By not making choices that express your best interests or needs, you begin to lose touch with who you are.
Making your own choices requires self-assertion. You make those choices based on your knowledge of yourself and your needs. When you stop making those choices, you may begin to feel your confidence wavering. You may even begin to wonder if you truly know what’s best for yourself.
If you’re struggling to make good life choices for yourself, what can you do to improve them?
Learning to make good choices is a life skill. Like any other skill, you can certainly practice it to develop it further. To begin building this skill, consider the following strategies:
Yes, you will always have obligations and responsibilities to honor, but making yourself a priority is important. When you aren’t making choices based on your own needs and wellbeing, you’ll begin to feel burned out quickly.
Quickly made decisions aren’t always avoidable, but when you do have a chance to think through a choice carefully before making it, take the opportunity to do so. Allow yourself to really think through your options and make a choice that honors yourself and your needs.
Everyone makes a regretful choice at some point or another. Human beings make mistakes – it’s a natural and normal part of life, even if it is unpleasant. If you find yourself fretting over your past mistakes, give yourself permission to let them go. You’re a human being like everyone else; holding on to those previous bad choices can damage your confidence in yourself to make better ones in the future.