As a woman, you know what it's like to be over-scheduled. You know what it's like to give to and take care of others more than you do for yourself. You know what it's like to put yourself last because someone who depends on you needs your time.
You know what it's like to work hard all day and come home to take care of responsibilities at home, too. Or you work hard at home all day but your work doesn't end just because the sun sets.
Being on emotional and psychological overload has become a way of life for many women. They are strong and they can handle a lot, but sometimes in the cycle, they often lose sight of the fact that that in order to keep giving to those they love or doing what they love, they have to recharge, they have to center themselves again.
The following seven tips can help you improve your mental well being and you will discover that when you feel better mentally, you feel better all over.
Tip #1 - If you are overextended, ask for help.
If you feel like a mouse chasing the cheese and the cheese is always four steps ahead of you, then you're doing too much. It's normal to want to handle responsibilities without wanting to ask for help. But when you're too busy, that can lead to feelings of stress or burning out.
Tip #2 - Get rid of negativity.
If you have relationships that are bad for you, it is time to cut ties. Surround yourself with positive people - people who will nourish you and support you. Let go of past emotional hurts and anything that ties you to a negative experience.
Tip #3 - Just STOP!
As a woman, you are so busy, so on the go that you never just stop and do nothing. Even on your days off, you are busy doing something that you feel has to be taken care of. Give yourself time to stop. Take off - be unavailable to everyone but you. Meditate, get involved in yoga or something else that relaxes you.
Tip #4 - Take part in activities that you enjoy.
We often let go of what we enjoy doing. We push it off to the side because we don't feel we have the time. Make time for the activities you love.
Tip #5 - Physical health, including rest and exercise, is closely tied in to mental well being.
Make sure that you're taking care of yourself through eating right, getting plenty of rest and exercising.
Tip #6 - Unload your burdens.
Don't carry around stress inside. We all need an outlet to talk about the things that bother or upset us. Talk to your friends, a therapist, or even use a journal to get out the things that give you a heavy mental load.
Tip #7 - Live your passion.
If you feel stuck or you feel like life is passing you by - or this isn't what you signed up for, change it. It is never too late to chase a passion you have. You might not be able to pack up and move to Paris today if that ís your dream, but take smaller steps to reach that goal if that's what you want.
If you’re struggling to find success and realize your dreams, the most likely reason is that you lack a mindset for success. If you want to achieve your goals, you must work on developing a mindset for success. A successful, or growth mindset, is what sets apart those who have success and those who don’t. You are the only person who can change your mindset to achieve success. Here are four tips to help you get started.
Create Successful Habits
It only takes 21 days to create a habit. You have to start by making small changes in your daily routine. Sit down and create a list of the things that you need to do to accomplish your goals. Every day start taking small steps toward your goals. The first step in setting your mindset for success is creating successful habits.
Understand Your Why
Changing your mindset takes work because the habits that we've formed aren't easy to break. Understanding your 'why' is about starting fresh and deciding on a single dream or goal so that when you accomplish it, it will mean a transformational change in your life. It is essential to identify something that can make a significant impact in your life. Once you determine your 'why' write down why it really matters to you.
Create a Vision for Your Life
To develop a success mindset, you have to stop looking at your past. To see all the possibilities that lay before you, you have to start looking toward your future. Think about all the possible ways you can live your life. Envision what your perfect life looks like. Having this vision of your future life will help to keep you moving forward during difficult times.
Learn from Your Failures
All successful people, who have a growth mindset, are comfortable with failure. They've learned to keep going no matter what. When they hit a wall, they don't make an excuse or give up because they realize that the only thing that is keeping them from reaching their goals is if they give up. Unlike the majority of people, successful people have prepared themselves mentally for failure. To do this, you have to permit yourself to fail. Doing this will take the pressure off and keep you moving forward.
Changing your mindset for success doesn’t happen by accident. It is something that you chose. These four tips will help you get started on setting your mindset for success.
Stop Putting Yourself Down
If you look for synonyms of self-deprecating, humble, and modest come up. The sad thing about that is that there is nothing healthy about being negative about yourself. It could easily come across as fishing for compliments, or that you do not think much of yourself. Neither of those is an attractive feature, nor is it helpful to your own self-esteem. Everyone has flaws, but there is no need to point them out, or dwell on them. If someone else did this to you it would be considered bullying, and so it is bullying when you do it to yourself.
There are consequences in how we present ourselves. Whether it is how you introduce yourself, or how you behave in an interview, or even on a first date. People often have a habit of indulging in a bit of self-deprecation. Whether it is due to a belief that humility is a character trait worthy of praise, or that we were raised to consider bragging as a negative.
We often take that to the extreme by putting ourselves down. The long-term effects of self-deprecation can be deeply damaging. Why? The more you put yourself the down, the more people will begin to believe you. In turn, you yourself start to believe it, too.
Consider the many ways that you put yourself down and how you can deal with them.
I’m So Fat – This is a common comment, and we all feel overweight and unattractive sometimes. The worst way to deal with that is by saying it loud. If your weight truly bothers you, think about how you can deal with it effectively. If you only say it aloud so people will rush to disagree with you – that’s not a subtle method.
I’m A Failure – We all fear falling flat on our face, but no one succeeds at everything, all the time. It’s okay to make a mistake; it’s how you respond to it that matters. Get up, dust yourself off, and go back at it again. Look at all of the things that you have achieved.
I Don’t Look Like A Model – Guess what? Only models look like models, and that means that 99% of the population is on par with you. There’s nothing wrong with how you look- it factors into you who are as a unique human.
I’m An Idiot – Just because you make a mistake or do something dumb, doesn’t mean you are dumb. Name-calling only makes you feel worse. It’s time that you cut yourself some slack.
No One Loves Me – You have friends and family who love you, even if you haven’t been lucky in the wide world of dating. It won’t always be that way. The best way to meet the right person is by first taking time to love yourself. It makes you more attractive to others, and you can’t make someone else happy if you can’t be happy with yourself.
We often see self-deprecation as a way to discover the layers beneath someone’s outer shell. This is just an illusion though, and it may be rooted in fairy tales. Consider Cinderella, dressed in rags and the prince still manages to see through all that, to her inner beauty, this has become a powerful message that has long resonated with many. The obvious point here though, is that the prince’s eye was caught when Cinderella was covered with magic, dressed in a ball gown, and finished with glass slippers.
This does not mean that you need to go around bragging about your achievements, it simply means that people will see you as you present yourself. If you constantly present yourself as though you are decked in rags that is exactly how people will see you.
Most importantly to note however, is that you - all of you, will believe the things you say about yourself.