If you’re struggling to find success and realize your dreams, the most likely reason is that you lack a mindset for success. If you want to achieve your goals, you must work on developing a mindset for success. A successful, or growth mindset, is what sets apart those who have success and those who don’t. You are the only person who can change your mindset to achieve success. Here are four tips to help you get started.
Create Successful Habits
It only takes 21 days to create a habit. You have to start by making small changes in your daily routine. Sit down and create a list of the things that you need to do to accomplish your goals. Every day start taking small steps toward your goals. The first step in setting your mindset for success is creating successful habits.
Understand Your Why
Changing your mindset takes work because the habits that we've formed aren't easy to break. Understanding your 'why' is about starting fresh and deciding on a single dream or goal so that when you accomplish it, it will mean a transformational change in your life. It is essential to identify something that can make a significant impact in your life. Once you determine your 'why' write down why it really matters to you.
Create a Vision for Your Life
To develop a success mindset, you have to stop looking at your past. To see all the possibilities that lay before you, you have to start looking toward your future. Think about all the possible ways you can live your life. Envision what your perfect life looks like. Having this vision of your future life will help to keep you moving forward during difficult times.
Learn from Your Failures
All successful people, who have a growth mindset, are comfortable with failure. They've learned to keep going no matter what. When they hit a wall, they don't make an excuse or give up because they realize that the only thing that is keeping them from reaching their goals is if they give up. Unlike the majority of people, successful people have prepared themselves mentally for failure. To do this, you have to permit yourself to fail. Doing this will take the pressure off and keep you moving forward.
Changing your mindset for success doesn’t happen by accident. It is something that you chose. These four tips will help you get started on setting your mindset for success.
If you look for synonyms of self-deprecating, humble, and modest come up. The sad thing about that is that there is nothing healthy about being negative about yourself. It could easily come across as fishing for compliments, or that you do not think much of yourself. Neither of those is an attractive feature, nor is it helpful to your own self-esteem. Everyone has flaws, but there is no need to point them out, or dwell on them. If someone else did this to you it would be considered bullying, and so it is bullying when you do it to yourself.
There are consequences in how we present ourselves. Whether it is how you introduce yourself, or how you behave in an interview, or even on a first date. People often have a habit of indulging in a bit of self-deprecation. Whether it is due to a belief that humility is a character trait worthy of praise, or that we were raised to consider bragging as a negative.
We often take that to the extreme by putting ourselves down. The long-term effects of self-deprecation can be deeply damaging. Why? The more you put yourself the down, the more people will begin to believe you. In turn, you yourself start to believe it, too.
Consider the many ways that you put yourself down and how you can deal with them.
I’m So Fat – This is a common comment, and we all feel overweight and unattractive sometimes. The worst way to deal with that is by saying it loud. If your weight truly bothers you, think about how you can deal with it effectively. If you only say it aloud so people will rush to disagree with you – that’s not a subtle method.
I’m A Failure – We all fear falling flat on our face, but no one succeeds at everything, all the time. It’s okay to make a mistake; it’s how you respond to it that matters. Get up, dust yourself off, and go back at it again. Look at all of the things that you have achieved.
I Don’t Look Like A Model – Guess what? Only models look like models, and that means that 99% of the population is on par with you. There’s nothing wrong with how you look- it factors into you who are as a unique human.
I’m An Idiot – Just because you make a mistake or do something dumb, doesn’t mean you are dumb. Name-calling only makes you feel worse. It’s time that you cut yourself some slack.
No One Loves Me – You have friends and family who love you, even if you haven’t been lucky in the wide world of dating. It won’t always be that way. The best way to meet the right person is by first taking time to love yourself. It makes you more attractive to others, and you can’t make someone else happy if you can’t be happy with yourself.
We often see self-deprecation as a way to discover the layers beneath someone’s outer shell. This is just an illusion though, and it may be rooted in fairy tales. Consider Cinderella, dressed in rags and the prince still manages to see through all that, to her inner beauty, this has become a powerful message that has long resonated with many. The obvious point here though, is that the prince’s eye was caught when Cinderella was covered with magic, dressed in a ball gown, and finished with glass slippers.
This does not mean that you need to go around bragging about your achievements, it simply means that people will see you as you present yourself. If you constantly present yourself as though you are decked in rags that is exactly how people will see you.
Most importantly to note however, is that you - all of you, will believe the things you say about yourself.
The way you look at your life is what will ultimately make you happy or unhappy. When you become consumed by negative beliefs or assumptions, you will find that you are unhappy with your life. Eventually, your perception will become your reality, so changing your mindset can make a huge difference in your life. A negative mindset tends to cloud your judgment, making it hard to tell if the negative thoughts you are experiencing are outside yourself or inside your psyche. Here are four signs that it's time to change your mindset and improve your life.
You Constantly Focus on Everything That’s Wrong
If you are always focusing your attention on the disappointments and worries in your life, this is a sure indication that your mindset is tainted with negativity. To begin to change this mindset, take some time to think about those things in your life that you are thankful for because it will help keep the negative thoughts from completely overwhelming your perspective.
You Won’t Face the Truth
Complaining about reality won't change it. Relentlessly complaining, is ultimately your refusal to acknowledge and accept the truth. There are things in your life that you just can't change, and refusing to see the world as it is, results in you no longer being able to tell fact from fiction. Take action and change those things that you can and accept those that you can’t.
You Become Angry When Your Expectations Aren’t Met
Your expectations are a large part of your mindset. They are what you believe to be necessary and possible. If you are always angry that the people in your life, or even you yourself, are not meeting expectations, it means that your expectations were probably unrealistic to begin with. Our expectations are what lay the groundwork for our experiences, and if we have unrealistic expectations, we will never be satisfied with our life.
You See Yourself as a Victim
Continually seeing yourself as a victim, hinders your ability to change things and build a better life for yourself. This victim mentality is generally a by-product of low self-esteem. The only way to change this mindset is by deciding to reject the victim role and start creating something better for yourself.
Changing your mindset isn’t easy, but it is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself. Learn how to recognize a negative mindset and become empowered to make the changes necessary to become more positive about your life.