 We live in a fear-based world. We are taught to “do as you would be done by” or to “love your neighbor as yourself.” Yet in the next instant, we are told that thinking of ourselves, of putting ourselves first, is “selfish.” On top of these contradictory and confusing messages, we often receive the message as little children that we are “not good enough” or that we are “unlovable.” We can be our own worst critics and may not even be aware of how hard on ourselves we are being. Our internal automatic negative thoughts become unconscious; yet they have a power that is not to be underestimated. They can lead to low mood, depression and anxiety. There is hope, however. With commitment and practice, it is possible to discover these negative automatic thoughts (NATs) and to transform them into thoughts stemming from kindness, compassion, and self-love. Our thoughts are so powerful that they can change our chemical make-up. Meditation Exercise Here is a simple meditation exercise that you can do that will transform within minutes the way you feel about yourself. Try it and see for yourself. Notice how you feel before you do the exercise and notice how you feel afterwards. With consistent practice, you can truly change your most important relationship: your relationship with yourself. Then you can watch how your relationships with others transform for the better as you experience the power of loving yourself.
Notice how your inner state has transformed. Tell yourself a positive statement such as “I am worthy of love”, or “I am loveable exactly as I am.” The above meditation is a version of the ancient Taoist Inner Smile meditation as taught by Master Mantak Chia. It is one of the most foundational practices for developing self-love and as Master Chia himself says, “Love heals.” Registered clinical counsellor Elizabeth Morelle says that this, combined with the practice of changing negative thoughts as they arise can be very health giving. “It is an investment of time that is well worth the effort,” she says. Changing negative thoughts is one aspect of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). CBT has been found in studies to be at least as effective as medication in reducing symptoms such as pain and negative mood in patients with fibromyalgia. Loving yourself is an art that can work wonders for your self-esteem, your confidence, and your well-being. Let me know how loving yourself changes things for you!
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 In today's world, our hours are busy and full. Meetings, classes, work, house maintenance, children, pets, and more take up our time. However, thru it all, you must remember to take care of yourself first, even though it can be hard. You are the best advocate of yourself and because of that you must support yourself and keep your best interests in mind at all times. Here are five actions that you can take to support yourself. Take Care of the Basics It might sound silly and may even make you roll your eyes, but you must take care of the basics. Your body is a machine that needs energy, rest, and maintenance. ● Rest: Try to make sure that you get adequate rest every night. Not getting enough hours can harm you but never getting out of bed isn't good either. If you have trouble sleeping, don't spend much time on your phone before bed, make your room ideal for sleeping with appropriate noises and light settings, and get a comfortable bed, a comfy set of sheets, and nightclothes (or better, sleep in the nude, it’s healthier than you might know). ● Energy: Make sure that you are getting enough water throughout the day. Soda, coffee, and energy drinks may be tasty, but they aren't as healthy for you. In addition to water, making sure that you are eating appropriately from your food pyramid can help keep you feeling good throughout the day. ● Maintenance: Partake in regular exercise. Whether that's going for a walk, riding a bicycle, or going for a swim, make sure to move your body with intention every day if possible. Listen to your body. If you are experiencing problems mentally or physically, go see a doctor or other medical professional. Focus On Your Hobbies It would be great if everyone loved their jobs, but for a lot of people, that's just not the case. During your free time when you aren't working, make sure to spend time doing your hobbies. These are the things you do because they make you happy. They don't have to earn money or be useful. Their purpose is to satisfy your soul. So, whether that is rock climbing, drawing, knitting, singing, playing a sport, collecting, dancing, scrapbooking, or something else, take time to do it. Spend Time in Nature Going for a simple walk outside can be great for you. Scheduling picnics, hikes, or nature walks is a great way to take care of yourself. Being among the land, animals, and plants is a great way to soothe your soul and remind you of your place in the world. Look up the state parks near your area or visit your local park. Most naturalist public places are either low-cost or free. Discover Your Personality It is hard to know what is best for yourself if you don't know yourself. Taking one or more personality quizzes can help you to understand your strengths and weaknesses as well as what kind of person you are. Knowing this information can help you better navigate work, relationships, career paths, and more. There are a multitude of personality tests available on the internet. Some are free while others have a small fee. Some popular ones are the Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, and HIGH5 Test. Each test is different and tests for different things. What you want to know about yourself will determine what test you should take. Make a Plan for the Future It can be easy to just float through life, not worried about making progress or moving forward. While this may be easy, it is not helpful. A great way to take care of yourself and grow as a person is to plan for the future. Where do you want to be in five years? How do you want your life to look? Will it look different than it is now and in what ways? Your plans don't have to be to buy a new house or remodel your bathroom. It can be as simple as planning to buy a new toaster or planting flowers around your home. Looking towards the future can help you take steps of advancement and avoid being stuck in one place. Conclusion All five actions of taking care of the basics, focusing on your hobbies, spending time in nature, discovering your personality, and making a future plan are great ways to support yourself. In order to thrive in this life, you need to have your basic needs met. You need a hobby fueling your soul. You need to reconnect with the Earth. You need to understand yourself. And you need to have thoughts and plans about the road ahead of you. These five actions will help you to support yourself. I help people every day as an integrative life coach put action steps into place to make themselves a priority. If you’d like more information on working with me, click here.  Self-love refers to the regard you have for your own well-being and happiness, and it is a very important part of improving your relationship with yourself. When you have a healthy sense of self-love it helps you to deal with adversity, develop positive mental and physical health, boost self-esteem, and develop an overall satisfaction with self and life.
For some, having a sense of self-love comes more easily than for others. Thankfully, there are measures that can be taken to help boost your sense of self-love. By implementing certain habits, you can generate self-love in your life and go on to reap the benefits. Affirmations Affirmations are a simple yet effective way to generate and implement self-love habits in your life. By using sentences, phrases, and words to affirm your value and worth you can impact the subconscious mind to view yourself more positively. Over time, this impacts the conscious mind and can change the way you feel and behave. Armed with a greater sense of belief in yourself you can become empowered to pursue and accomplish more, thus enhancing your self-love. Forgiveness Everyone has done and/or will do something that they regret but holding onto that regret can be detrimental to self-love. Learning to forgive yourself for past mistakes and failures is an important part of moving forward in your life. When you can forgive yourself, you can let go of those old things instead of letting them hold you hostage and attaching ideas about your value and worth to them. Self-forgiveness lets you move beyond your mistakes so you can continue loving and caring for yourself in a meaningful way. Celebrate Yourself If you want to generate an environment of self-love, celebrating yourself is key to doing so. When you can look at your successes and strengths and celebrate them it helps you see your value and worth by showing you what you are capable of. When you can see that you have value and have accomplished things in the past, you develop a love and appreciation for yourself that builds your confidence and motivates you to continue pursuing things in your life. Set Boundaries Boundaries are an important part of developing self-love habits. A part of loving yourself is establishing guidelines that ensure you are treated well and that you don’t overextend yourself in a manner that harms your well-being. Boundaries are a way of respecting yourself that helps others learn appropriate ways to engage with you and boundaries also keep you from mistreating yourself. Thus, establishing and implementing boundaries is a good way to consistently show yourself love. Self-Care Self-care and self-love tend to go hand in hand. When you engage in self-care you pursue activities that promote your overall well-being. This can look like eating a healthy meal, engaging in physical activity, taking a nap, or practicing meditation. The key is simply to make room at a consistent interval to do something that brings you happiness and increases your sense of wellness. When you improve how you feel overall, you improve how you feel about yourself. Creating self-love habits does not have to be complicated. Using the methods shared above can certainly be great ways to develop a sense and practice of self-love in your life, however pursuing self-love is not limited to these methods. There are a variety of ways to build self-love in your life so focus on finding what works for you. As long as the end result is a greater regard for your well-being and happiness, you are doing it right |
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